Changed by Chance…Champion by Choice » Author, Elizabeth Barker

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    April 16, 1986, 9:49 AM

    This moment in my life unraveled years of careful planning. From that day on, I was forever changed. As if I were a pinball, I bounced around haphazardly for five merciless years, from one misfortune to another. I experienced the heartbreak of burying my daughter, the joy of pregnancy with my son, and the terror of discovering a cancer that could terminate my baby and possibly end my life. Despite these adversities, I not only survived, I thrived. I learned many life lessons, but the most valuable, the one I’d like to share with you, is - that you CAN come through dark hardships to find light, love, and happiness, but only if you make the choice to do so.

    My life may have been Changed by Chance, but I became my own Champion by Choice.

Yoga on the Philadelphia Art Museum Steps

Late last week, I was anxious to see the weather forecast for the coming weekend.

Because this Yoga event is outdoors, rain or shine, on the Art Museum steps, I was glad when the report predicted cool weather and only a possible shower. But they were wrong – about Saturday AND Sunday – I discovered as I headed out at 6:30 AM Sunday in the rain – ugh! My comfort was that, as a volunteer for Living Beyond Breast Cancer, I’d at least have the luxury of being inside their giant tent set up on the sidewalk. But, if I was going to practice yoga in this celebration, with the other 1400 attendees, I might get pretty wet. Oh well, it’s for a good cause.

LBBC hosts 2 major fundraisers in Philadelphia each year: Their Butterfly Ball in November and this Yoga on the Steps in May. I typically volunteer at both, to give back to them for the wonderful support that they offered me when I was undergoing breast cancer treatment.
LBBC Yoga On the Steps - Liz Barker
Within the hour, the tent filled up with people, food and merchandise and the buzz continued until it was time to set up our mats on the steps outside to practice. I was pleasantly surprised to see that the rain had stopped completely as I set up my mat. For the next hour and a half, the crowd of attendees was led in practice by famous yogi instructor, Jennifer Schelter. Under her command, it felt magical and synergistic to be outdoors practicing in tandem with so many people who had such strong conviction to our cause. I even met up with my new friend Josephine, whom I befriended last year.

Author of Changed by Chance, Champion by Choice, Liz Barker at LBBC Yoga on Steps 2013As Jennifer closed our practice, the slow drizzle began again. Honestly, it was miraculous that we didn’t have a drop of rain while the practice was in session. The angels of our dear departed ones, who might have been practicing there in previous years, might have had something to do with this incredible phenomenon. Because both before and after practice, we had rain.

The other great news is that LBBC met and exceeded its fundraising goal for the day with a tally that was over $300,000! I was glad to pay it forward and to be a part of this success today.

Namaste~


Liz Barker at LBBC Yoga on the Steps
Jennifer Schelter at LBBC Yoga on Steps
Liz Barker at the Philadelphia Art Museum during LBBC Yoga on the Steps
LBBC Yoga on the Philadelphia Art Museum Steps
Elizabeth Barker with the NBC10 Peacock

Angelina’s Choice

Angelina Jolie imageThe Angelina Jolie news story that broke today created quite a stir and lots of debate. Should she or shouldn’t she have had a prophylactic double mastectomy?

We are kidding ourselves if we think that we know much that is substantial or sincere about our media celebrities. I give kudos to Angelina for being so open about her recent personal choice and for her reasoning behind her decision.

This literally life altering decision is a complex one to tackle. There isn’t a pat answer to the dilemma if you test positive for a mutation of BRCA gene that we all carry.

There are many variables to consider if diagnosed with the mutation of this gene, which is a hereditary factor, and indicates a higher incidence of Breast Cancer. What, if any action should a woman take might depend on: age, overall health condition, family medical history, a patient’s mental & emotional reaction to the news about the gene, even insurance and financial considerations, (though this is an unfortunate concern to have to mix in).

From what I have read about Angelina Jolie’s case, I am not 100% sure that I would have opted to have a double mastectomy. Because although the doctors quote that her chances of developing breast cancer were high, at 80+%, due to her having this gene and family history (her mother died of ovarian cancer and had this mutated gene), I know firsthand how statistics can be fallible – (the incorrect advice about aborting Bryan and his odds).

I am not sure if I would have done the surgery at her present age if I were her. It has nothing to do with beauty/appearance concerns. As a young woman who was diagnosed at age 34, had a mastectomy, and has had excellent reconstruction results, I know firsthand the miracle of modern surgery to restore a woman’s breasts. I’d be more concerned that, with the prophylactic mastectomy, while you decrease one risk, you are opening your body to new, lifelong risks as a result of surgery – lymphedemia, infection, possible disfigurement, possible physical limitations, etc. Because of her wealth and intelligence, Angelina Jolie has resources that most of us don’t.

If I were her, I might have possibly opted to keep a close and diligent watch on my health and invested time and monies into preventative care, (though she is in great physical shape and a vegetarian already I think.) I might have instead opted for a homeopathic, nutritional, and yoga or mental conditioning regime that would instead help to ward off activating these cancer cells if they were dormant in her body.

It’s hard to say really what I would have done…and I don’t wish to be put into that hot seat any time soon.

But I commend Angelina for her openness and for using her fame to help other women who may be faced with this awful diagnosis and decision. Her courageous decision will no doubt possibly save lives or help other women to become more informed about their health.

I thought that this link provided the best and most concise information about this story. Click here to see and hear video – http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=50146772n
Then, as the Saturday Night comedy character says “Discuss amongst yourselves…”

27th Mother’s Day…Best Yet

Author Liz Barker and her sons James and Bryan Barker

James, Liz and Bryan Barker

This past Mother’s Day was an extraordinary one for me and my family.

After numerous sad and difficult past Mother’s Days, we have come full circle now. Hopefully this positive trend will continue in future years. I’d like to one day be able to enjoy a future Mother’s Day as a proud grandma.

Please help me to cheer & congratulate Bryan Scot Barker as he graduates from the University of Pennsylvania. In a few weeks, he’ll be off to University of Virginia for his graduate work. I am grateful each day that the doctor’s prophecies for his future were wrong and that both of us are healthy to enjoy this day!

The photos are with: My parents, settled into their new retirement community now, and with Jim’s parents at their home in Roxboro, as well as the lovely spring scene of our backyard in bloom.

Author Liz Barker and FamilyAuthor Liz Barker and Family at Univ Penn Graduation for Bryan 2013Enjoy the Spring!









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Joanne Kline - May 14, 2013 - 3:13 PM

Congratulations to Bryan on his wonderful achievement, and the start of his adventure in Virginia. Love reading your Blogs, Liz! Mr. and Mrs. Barker look great!

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Toni Bacquie - May 22, 2013 - 3:45 PM

Congratulations to Bryan and your family, You are light to those that are in a dim place in their life. Faith is what brought you to this very moment in your life, not the doctors or their medicines….You and your family are ROCK STARS standing on the Rock and standing strong! Thanks for sharing your story of Victory !!!! May God Bless you and your beautiful family always!