Changed by Chance…Champion by Choice » Author, Elizabeth Barker

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    April 16, 1986, 9:49 AM

    This moment in my life unraveled years of careful planning. From that day on, I was forever changed. As if I were a pinball, I bounced around haphazardly for five merciless years, from one misfortune to another. I experienced the heartbreak of burying my daughter, the joy of pregnancy with my son, and the terror of discovering a cancer that could terminate my baby and possibly end my life. Despite these adversities, I not only survived, I thrived. I learned many life lessons, but the most valuable, the one I’d like to share with you, is - that you CAN come through dark hardships to find light, love, and happiness, but only if you make the choice to do so.

    My life may have been Changed by Chance, but I became my own Champion by Choice.

A Woman to Watch

I know that I have been saying this throughout my blogs, but it is so true and absolutely amazing that I have to repeat and share it with all of you. The past 3 years of this book quest journey have been somewhat “magical”. (They have been absolutely exhausting as well, but magical). It started with the afterglow of that fundraiser to honor Lauren. I believe that her spirit “thanked me” by sparking the fire within me to write my book, that begins with her birth. What has been magical is the fact this journey just keeps moving along and leads me to meet new people, to explore new places and to experience new ideas. It’s proof that the Laws of Attraction do exist in the universe and you can benefit from them if you simply open yourself up to receiving them.

Woman to Watch RadioMy book is meant to inspire others to become their own champion regardless of whatever obstacles may intercept your life. After I am published, I’d love to move on to writing and speaking about the numerous everyday life champions of the world, many of whom are unknown to us. Along my journey, I have met a women who is already doing a version of this type of work. Susan Rocco reached out to me through our mutual connection with Mount St. Joseph Academy. When I interviewed Susan, she shared with me the mission of her “Women to Watch” radio show.

Susan says “Two years ago, in August of 2012, I was at a place in my life that I had reached after many years of soul searching, and hard work. We all do that, and we question Why are we here? All along the way, we make choices and decisions that either move us forward, or move us back. Sometimes it’s one step forward and one step back. For most of my life, my choices never felt authentic to me because I suffered from severe anxiety and low self-esteem. What I did know however was that I deeply wanted to somehow make the world a better place.”

“There are an abundance of self-help books, inspirational quotes, workshops, experts, therapists and thought leaders in the world today. What I can say for certain is that none of those options worked for me until I realized that I was an original human being on this planet, and therefore must have something different to offer the world…I made a decision, to believe in myself. That concept alone, of knowing for sure that out of billions of people, past, present and yet to come, there were no two souls alike was fascinating to me! And it ultimately helped me to find my voice.”

Although Susan is not a writer per se, she is a talented communicator with her own radio show. It is these types of “Ah-ha” moments that move people to action and to pursue their dreams. Susan explains more…

“What I decided was that I wanted to create a radio show where I could help other women, from all types of backgrounds, find their own voice, and help them to build their self-esteem by sharing their real life stories. Even the most accomplished people have fears and self-doubt. Only when we are truthful about these fears do we inspire others. It’s about connection….and for me, connecting with people, and learning where they came from, has always been a passion of mine.”

I love it! Susan’s philosophy is spot on with me. This is precisely what I hope that CCCC will do as well when people read it and subsequently hear me speak. Her show has been a tremendous success and her reach is growing. I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Susan as a guest on her show last October in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month. Click here to listen to the taping.

Woman to Watch

Liz Barker and Susan Rocco

Susan explains – “In two years, Women to Watch™ has seen many highlights: Our guests number over 100 women from around the world. We will be launching a brand new website in the next few weeks. We now have a “Girls to Watch” blog to inspire the younger generation of girls who are contemplating their careers. I’ve hosted panel events and interviews outside of the studio at companies such as eBay Enterprises, Comcast and an inaugural event in New York for The Truth Behind Our Titles™. I’m scheduled to do the same at Thomson Reuters, Drexel University, Haverford Trust, Bucknell University and Mount St Joseph Academy over the next year. We’ve secured the support of many loyal companies that believe in our mission – Walgreens, InSource Technologies, RBC Wealth Management, CJ Tours, The Mutual Fund Store, Mount St Joseph Academy and Neveda Couture.”

Who knows what other exciting ventures the future holds for Susan? I have a feeling that she and I will be collaborating again sometime, after I am published. Fate brought Susan and I together, as it has done for several other key people in my book quest journey. I feel fortunate for these gifts.

Please connect with Susan on FB, Twitter and Linked In by visiting her webpage for her show at: www.women2watch.net

An Unexpected Surprise

I was invited to a business conference in San Diego recently. I felt fortunate because it would allow me to visit my son, who has re-located there, afterwards. I have a fondness for CA anyway and San Diego is my favorite city.

Because it was business and there’s never much free time to do anything fun, I didn’t check out the Omni La Costa Carlsbad resort amenities. That was a mistake.

Much to my surprise, I discovered that this beautiful resort is the home of the world famous Deepak Chopra Wellness Center. Yes, Dr. Chopra, the famous author, speaker and MD whose holistic brand of medicine blends modern western with ancient eastern medical treatment. The Chopra Center focuses on the principals of mind-body-spirit healing and is an integrative wellness center. There is an amazing menu of day services. They also offer a variety of intriguing weekend or weekly special programs. There is one for women only too that features author Elizabeth Gilbert – “Eat, Pray, Love” fame. (Ladies, contact me if you are interested in attending in 2015).
Deepak Chopra Centers in San Diego CA
Wow, so this center was right up my alley. Their philosophy is exactly what I talk about in my book. Wish I had known about it before I arrived, so that I might have had time to explore it better. But, I managed to forgo breakfast one morning and got a yoga class in. Afterwards, in speaking with the staff, I noticed something called “Chakra Balancing”. I scheduled an hour during a meeting break to do this too. (You can Google “what are chakras” to learn more about them.) I was blown away by what occurred when I had my reading!

So, with a certified professional, I enter a quiet, dimly lit room that is scented with an aromatic oil. After doing some yoga type breathing and meditation, she directs me to a table that has the 7 Chakra cards on it, all face down, lined in a row. She instructs me to meditate for a moment and then to put my right hand on my heart, and to use my left hand’s middle finger to choose the card that “sends out energy to me”. I am worried that my perpetual logic won’t let this work for me. I move my left hand and think that I feel energy from the very first card lined up. “No, can’t be so soon” I tell myself, “must be that I felt something ‘cause I lowered my hand.” But, with all of the other 6 cards, I feel nothing. Hmm… I ‘m worried that I am not doing something right. I go down the line again and again, it’s the first card that seems to tingle my hand. I am second guessing myself, internally insisting that it can’t be the first card and that darn, this isn’t working. So, I take my hand away, take a few deep breaths and try again. But this time I just hover my hand over the cards and then delve into touching. OK it’s the first card again with that discernible feel. With the other cards, I feel absolutely nothing except the wood of the desk supporting each of them – no vibe, no energy, just literally, dead wood. It is like they are not even there. So, although I fought it for who knows why, it’s the first card alright.

So – what Chakra card is it? She turns it over and smiles slyly. She says that it is rare that people pick one that I chose. It is Chakra #7, which is the last one at the top of the head. She explains that it is rare to be picked because it indicates that a person has already worked their way through, (literally), all of the preceding 6 chakras. Chakra work is like working through your life lessons. Accordingly, those that resonate with #7 indicate that they are now in a period of “gratitude, enlightenment, transformation, and sharing and teaching of their wisdom and lessons.” Wow! Could that have described my book quest journey any better than that?! My book is exactly about doing the above, and more.

Why then, was I so hesitant to accept card #7 that “called out” to me? Again her reasoning made sense to me. She said that because in my life I am now essentially multitasking, with my full time work while pursuing my book writing & publishing, that this process has been longer than I’d like. And that I have experienced many incidences of self-doubt along this long journey these past 2 years+. So that is why I may have sub and unconsciously not acknowledged this card and that this is indeed my destiny.

Wow – I am profoundly moved by this totally unexpected experience! It is another positive affirmation that this is the journey that I am destined for at this time. This surprise encounter is another mystical guidepost for me and indicates that the brass ring is getting closer. Hope you are as moved by this as I am.

Namastè

Chakras

It’s in the cards ..or the stars

Liz Barker in the CardsOver the years, I have found comfort in having spiritual and astrology readings done for me. Most times, sessions with reputable readers, can enlighten us about our souls, our journeys, our angels, and our life lessons. I’ve always been curious and fascinated with prophecies and mysticism. The bible is full of these and so are many other spiritual books. Foretelling isn’t as prevalent a practice today though and many people are skeptics. Having readings done has helped me to understand why things happened, particularly about Lauren and the dramatic events that followed. They also help to explain the magic of the angel moments that I have experienced through the years.
 
One example is when I was advised to not become pregnant again for a while after Lauren’s death. For many reasons, I didn’t heed this advice and the consequences were life threatening. Thanks to angel interventions though, both my life and Bryan’s were saved. I share stories such as this in the book and they are indeed incredible.
 
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that, in talking with 2 other authors who have had life altering events – Lu Ann Cahn and Elizabeth Gilbert – they too have had angel moments occur to them. When I have heard each of these women speak, they both shared an amazing incidence about a person who suddenly and miraculously came to them at a significant life crossroad or at a time of need.
 
The most remarkable example of a prophecy is the one that was made to me after Lauren’s death. That prophecy was made over 20 years ago. I have been watching and waiting for it to occur all this time. It was a prediction that I would be speaking, sharing and helping others in the public eye. Initially I interpreted it to mean a continuation of what I do as a financial advisor – I often speak with individuals and groups and my work does help people and betters their lives. Although I sensed that the cryptic prophecy meant more than that, the reader wouldn’t give me details. And so I worked through the years, ever on alert for some spark to ignite, to make this happen.
 
Of course, something did happen finally. Almost 3 years ago, after throwing a happy and fulfilling memorial birthday fundraiser for Lauren, I was (truly) magically moved to begin this book quest journey. And what a journey this has been the past few years! I can see this prophecy unfolding as I continuously meet new people that push me along and are key players with me in this drive.
 
Because it had been awhile, I decided to have a reading again recently. The reading confirmed to me that I was on the right path and that my book quest journey would soon become a significant success. In another blog, I am going to share something else that recently happened to me, quite unexpectedly, that also tells a similar story.

Stay tuned for that…
 
By the way, this month on Friday October 24th, I am again devoting myself to another fundraiser to benefit the Arc Alliance, a non-profit organization that serves individuals from birth to adulthood with all types of disabilities. www.thearcalliance.org