“Life is 10% how we make it and 90% how we take it”.

I mentioned in a previous blog about how I had to shelve the dream of writing my book for over 15 years due to my other life commitments. Initially and for awhile, this was a disappointment. However, in retrospect, this detour was actually a good thing. If I learned anything about my tumultuous years, it was that I can’t control fate. I can only manage it. (Read quote above)

Now, years later, both Bryan and I are long time survivors. This gives credibility and depth to the story. The book would not have been as good if I had written it just after all of the incidents occurred. There would be too many loose ends to worry about. Would I stay well and in remission? Would Bryan be slow or small from the chemo as one doctor had predicted? How would my life be altered by the big C? Would the trauma and pain of losing Lauren ever go away? With the passage of time and experience, these questions are answered. Like wine or cheese, the story has gotten better as it ages. The wait was worth it. As you read the book, you’ll understand.

Bryan wrote about our experience together in his college entrance essay for University of Pennsylvania. It was amazing how he was able to relay such a big story in just a few paragraphs. The Penn admittance person who read it called Bryan’s guidance counselor. She said that, as a mother, she was moved to tears in reading it and had to know if these were Bryan’s real life events? His essay and our life experience likely set him apart from the masses of applicants. He was accepted to Penn. He is neither slow nor small. He is an honors student and a varsity athlete.

And to think that I was told to abort him to save myself…. There isn’t a day that goes by that I am not grateful for the miraculous intervention that occurred to save his life, and mine. The book explains what transpired.

Bryan playfully holding his Stotesbury Cup for winning the Quad event for Haverford School Crew and Bryan’s high school graduation from The Haverford School. He graduated with honors.